Thesh wrote:I do get asked "How are you?" every time I deal with someone in retail. As it has been said, the response to that one is in the form "I'm (fine|good|great|ok)\. How are you\?". The other person is then to respond in the form "I'm (fine|good|great|ok)\. Thanks for asking\.".
Or is it "I'm (fine|good|great|ok); how are you\?" and "I'm (fine|good|great|ok); thanks for asking\."?
I hate English.
It's not English, dood. It's human communication and social interaction. It's a little script. We all know how it goes, so we have some manner of socially interacting with people WE HAVE NEVER EVEN SEEN BEFORE. That's actually pretty neat!
I take it by your phrasing of "deal with someone in retail" that you've never actually had such a job? I have. And it is sometimes one's job
to greet customers. I assure you, if you are amiable enough to get out a "Fine; thanks," you don't need to ask how they are or engage in further conversation or even stop walking. They offered a greeting; acknowledge it and acknowledge them as a fellow human being (who probably dislikes the exchange as much as you if not more - they've been at it for HOURS after all) and you're pretty much good.
There are only a few possibilities:
a) The person following the script hates it as much as you do or more,
b) The person following the script is entirely apathetic to the interaction,
c) The person following the script is actually somewhat to very interested in your answers.
(Super sorry if I sound like a judgmental prick or if it seems like I'm telling you to shut the fuck up and play nice. Neither is my intent; I'm kind of thinking out loud with my fingers more than anything else right now.)