TaintedDeity wrote:For the record: "guy" is still sort of gendered. It's part of the trend to extend male words to refer to both males and females.
By referring to a group of mixed-gendered folks with a male term it could be argued that you're erasing females or treating them as other by using the male as default. Not everybody agrees.
I don't quite get this - isn't using the same term for men and women the opposite
of othering? As in "hey, you're just like us!"
Imagine, if you will.. that in a group that had zero heavily European, particularly Western and Northern European, descended folk in it was addressed with one word, while even if there was a single heavily European descended person in the group, you used another word that meant heavily European descended people. Neither word is necessarily positive or negative, simply words.
Now imagine that you are not heavily descended from European people, assuming you are. If you aren't, then.. be you. How would you view society if you knew that any group, the moment a heavily European descended person popped in, would be addressed as though the entire group were heavily European descended. And that at times a group containing no such heavily European descended people were nevertheless addressed as though it was a group of heavily European descended people. And, of course, taking a look at the population statistics you find that heavily European descended people make up just a smidge lower than 50% of the population. How would that make you feel, overall, about your identity as a non-heavily European descended person?
But you are right, I don't think it's quite Othering. It's.. whatever the opposite would be, I guess. Which isn't including. Othering is basically focusing completely on the differences and essentially saying that there are no similarities and that no common ground could exist. This is the opposite - erasing differences completely and refusing to acknowledge them, which is.. also a problem.
I'm fairly sure the basic idea is that while it's fine to note that differences between people exist, it's not cool to focus on them. Like T-shirt color or something.