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Advice to Past Self

Postby Okita » Thu Dec 23, 2010 5:02 pm UTC

I've recently become curious in what other people would have told their past selves.

So here's the name of the game.

State your age (relative age is okay like, I'm in my 20's or 30's). Then state what advice you would give to yourself 5-10 years ago (say how many years ago too).

I'll give two examples, one from a co-worker and one from myself.

Co-worker: 30's advice for 10 years back
30's co-worker to himself 10 years ago wrote:Go out and live life. Take the risk. Anything that you're thinking 'Eh, maybe not or eh, maybe later', go do it now".


Okita's advice in his 20's for himself 5 years ago wrote:Screw the 5-10 year plan. You can convince yourself so much about what you believe and want based upon what other people tell you and then realize you are dead wrong. You've got your interests and your own strengths so play to those instead of trying to follow what looks like to be the best optimal path that you're not emotionally invested in. Sure, it will probably be less lucrative as the "best" path but if you're not into what you're doing on the "best" path then you're setting yourself to fail.


Anyway, I'm curious as to what other people would have told themselves.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Sandry » Thu Dec 23, 2010 5:16 pm UTC

I hope the 5-10 years bit isn't a hard limit? I'm kinda old, and honestly I lived my 20s pretty well, for the most part.

30 year old Sandry's advice to herself 15 - 20 years ago wrote:Attempting to conform obsessively to others' social standards is a) not rewarding, personally, b) not helping you anyhow, and c) ultimately pretty boring, objectively. Be yourself. It's way more interesting, and, as it turns out, it certainly won't cause you to have any fewer friends.

Also, learn to admit you aren't amazing at absolutely everything. There's little point in doggedly sticking with a subject you aren't going to get much out of and having it drag you down in other areas. Play to your strengths instead of having to put in triple the effort on your weaknesses only to continue to do poorly in that area. *cough I AM TALKING ABOUT MATH THEORY cough*
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Ivor Zozz » Thu Dec 23, 2010 6:23 pm UTC

26 now. This advice is for my self of seven years ago (college freshman):
Things aren't going to fall into place just because you want them to. You'll have to study, you'll have to plan, you'll have to work, you'll have to get out and convince people that you have something to offer. You can't go around assuming that they'll magically intuit your awesomeness. Lose the ego and the sense of entitlement.

The interests you have at the start of college may not be the interests you have toward the close. That's fine. Trying to resuscitate the enthusiasm you once had for a subject may end in failure, so don't invest too much time or energy in that. Instead, look out for new things that intrigue you, and keep your curiosity.

Spend more time outside your dorm room. A lot more.

Don't join any more message boards. Really. Just don't.

Learning practical skills and making yourself useful to other people is not so horrible. In fact, it feels pretty nice a lot of the time, and is more satisfying than trying to attract admiration by being "cool" or "interesting."

Lastly, it is not "beneath you" to concern yourself with money. Learn to save, learn how not to spend, and think a lot harder about how you are going to provide for yourself in the future.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Account20151023 » Thu Dec 23, 2010 6:38 pm UTC

Currently 23. Not a lot to say, really. But here goes at 18 year old, just entering college me.

To quote Outkast, forever doesn't seem that long until you're grown. Keep that in perspective.

I know you think you can save the world. You can't. Your choice is whether or not to ride it down unhappily or screaming maniacally like it's the bomb in Dr. Strangelove. Do what you want to, not what seems like the socially conscious choice. Business and music tech instead of Poli-Sci.

The good and bad of life ebbs and flows. Even truly awful things can yield extremely valuable experience. Or hell, at least awesome stories. Have fun living under an arms dealer, by the way.

Lastly, and most importantly, for the love of god, don't stick your dick in crazy.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby picnic_crossfire » Thu Dec 23, 2010 8:15 pm UTC

19-year-old picnic to 15-year-old picnic wrote:Hey there, handsome. Looking good. One word about your appearance, though: cut off your hair. You'll thank me later. Also, work hard in high school. Yeah, we both know you're, like, "smart," but your father isn't made of money, and you'll need to get pretty stellar grades in high school if you want to be able to go to a sweet college and not have to pay much for it. Also, that girl you have a crush on... Ask her out. Soon, please. I promise she likes you. You'll regret it if you don't. Continue not being a douche because that will pay off. Basically, continue doing exactly what you're doing, but be more active about getting things you want. Do your homework, seriously. That's the biggest thing I need you to understand. You're doing fine with everything else.

I'm so pumped for you. You have a lot of good things to look forward to, and you get more handsome every day. You have a good life; don't forget it.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby icanus » Thu Dec 23, 2010 8:33 pm UTC

If I can stretch it to twelve years:
Hey, moron! She fancies you, so go talk to her now. Even more imprtantly, don't wait until you've had a couple more glasses of Dutch Courage, realise she's left and end up snogging the other girl at the party who likes you - you'll save yourself four years of sniping and recriminations before finally giving up on relationships for the remainder of the decade only to realise that you're approaching 30 and haven't been on a date since college.

If I'm limited to ten years:
Hey Comrade, I know you think you and your socialist buddies are going to change the world and bring down global capitalism through the medium of strongly worded pamphlets, but it might also be a good idea to start looking for a job before you graduate, just in case the whole capitalism thing lasts longer than expected. Don't think of it as selling out, think of it as getting yourself in position to bring the system down from the inside.

Also, ditch the second girl from that party already - you can still get out with only superficial emotional scars.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby TheKrikkitWars » Thu Dec 23, 2010 9:04 pm UTC

20's Self to Late Teens Self wrote:
  • Look after your teeth whilst they're still savable.
  • If you're going to try and make that relationship work be upfront about it with all the people who're inevitably going to meddle.
  • The answer to the destruction wrought by said meddling isn't at the bottom of the first bottle, or the tenth.
  • Don't start smoking, even a pipe.
  • It's the company which makes a drinking session, sometimes you have to get leathered, and sometimes you can't get more than a little tiddly... Identify which is which.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby OBrien » Thu Dec 23, 2010 9:33 pm UTC

21-year-old O'Brien to 18-year-old O'Brien, just as he's going to uni: wrote:Hey there. Like the hair, keep growing it, in three years it will look awesome, and then you'll get half of it shaved off and it will look twice as awesome! Anyhow, you were gonna do that anyway, so here's some things you need to know:
1: Your virginity is not some horrible social disfigurement that needs to be gotten rid of as soon as possible. Make sure you're in a position where it's... special. I'm not saying you have to be in a relationship, although I know that's what you'll find most comfortable, but for heaven's sake, make sure you at least like the girl. And don't do it when you're drunk.
2: Talking of that girl, just because someone is interested in you that doesn't mean you should be in a relationship. It's OK to say no to someone, just as long as you're not a dick about it.
3: Learn to econimise. Seriously.
4: Learn to revise and work properly. Getting the hang of it in your final year isn't ideal (although better than not getting the hang of it at all, but that's not the point).
5: In a couple of years you'll meet a girl who you will absoloutly adore. You will have a lot of fun and some very special times but, for fuck's sake, when things go bad get out of there. Don't tell yourself it's just because you're not working hard enough at it, you know how hard you're working. And seriously, don't think you can help her with her with her... emotional problems. You can't, all you can do is be there for her and if you kid yourself into thinking otherwise you'll only drag yourself down.
6: Don't buy that Big Country album, they're shit.


I think that's about it... will add more as I go along.

EDIT:
21-year-old O'Brien to 18-year-old O'Brien, just as he's going to uni: wrote:7: Beer is awesome, get used to the taste of it as soon as possible, then you can experiance the joys of Polish, Chec and Belgian largers and British ales, stouts and porters (especially the stouts and porters).
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby podbaydoor » Thu Dec 23, 2010 9:34 pm UTC

23 (newly minted!), advice to 15-year-old me:

It gets better. Get out of your head and socialize. Don't hate everyone, they really don't hate you. Wash your face with a washcloth and soap in the shower, it will do wonders for your complexion and probably your self-esteem.

Advice to 18-year-old me:

Don't sleep with that guy. Or that one.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Kang » Thu Dec 23, 2010 10:41 pm UTC

I'd sort of like to share this:
Okita wrote:
30's co-worker to himself 10 years ago wrote:Go out and live life. Take the risk. Anything that you're thinking 'Eh, maybe not or eh, maybe later', go do it now".


And then of course there is:
To my 6 years ago self wrote:For crying out loud, do apply for that job at the rail service. It's not like you actually had to travel anywhere with them and that other plan just bloody stinks. You see those classmates who meet it with confusion and amusement that you say you want to study for the sake of actual learning and interest? Yea... they are right.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Plasmic-Turtle » Fri Dec 24, 2010 1:38 am UTC

24 year-old nearing end of MSc self to 18 year old just starting college self:
1. You're actually reasonably attractive. Rather than feeling like shit about your body, spend some money on clothes that you actually like.
2. Do not become obsessed with budgeting on groceries. Yes you'll save money but it will result in disordered eating which is not fun and will achieve nothing but misery and less money in several years' time.
3. You're far more outgoing and confident underneath than you realise, stop being scared, get rid of this obscenely low self-esteem and go out and meet people.
4. STOP JUDGING YOUR SELF WORTH BY YOUR GRADES. It will get you scholarships for sure, but happiness it will not.
5. Take up more extracurricular activities! Tramping, orienteering, music, read for fun like you did throughout highschool... you will regret not doing this later.
6. NEVER stay in a relationship where you are unhappy, or cannot be yourself. If you don't love the person, tell them and leave them. If you're head over heels but they're ambivalent about you, leave them, even if it hurts like hell. If a boy tries to coerce you into sex without a condom, tell them to f*** off. If someone doesn't give a crap about whether or not you're enjoying the sex, don't be afraid to tell them you're bored & don't wish to continue, and if they insist on trying to violate you while you attempt to sleep, feel free to banish them to the lounge/street/jail cell.
7. Virginity does not make you naive or somehow not yet 'adult' or on the outskirts of some great secret the rest of the world seems to share. Losing it is no big deal. So quit worrying about still having it, and take things as they come. Do make sure you lose it with someone you trust, though.
8. Don't do your MSc, at least not at this university with that supervisor. Take a gap year instead.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Korrente » Fri Dec 24, 2010 8:17 am UTC

I'm 20. Not a whole lot under my belt but here goes:
Keep doing what you're doing, it's only going to get more awesome. I mean, seriously, airplanes. But socialize a little more...just up and talk to people, it'll help in college. You know that thing they say about never talking to your high school friends again after graduation? It's total crap, they're going to be the best things that ever happened to you. Wear a shirt that fits for crying out loud, undershirts are not as bad as you think. And get a hat, it'll make you You.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby osiris32 » Fri Dec 24, 2010 8:48 am UTC

I'm 27. This would be advise to myself in early high school:

Dude. Hang the idea of drafting. You'll end up sitting at a desk all day, growing fat and not accomplishing anything. Do yourself a big favor, and join the Criminal Justice program at the Skills Center. You already know that being a cop is something you'd like to do, so pursue it!! You'll probably be a uniform by the time you're 21-22, and by now would be making good money, have your own house, a good car, and possibly be married. As it is, still apply for the fire investigator position, since you'll get it and enjoy it. Good work on getting your Eagle Scout, btw. Make sure you still do that. Oh, and get your damn grades up!! I know you hate high school, everything except the AP classes bore you. But you're gonna graduate with a 1420 SAT and a 1.9 GPA, and that's just sad. So apply yourself, dammit.

Also, cut your hair. That's a big reason girls don't date you, is that you look kinda like a Hanson reject. Change your wardrobe a little, too. There's nothing wrong with the occasional button-down shirt. Also, self confidence will win over a lot of these girls. You know you're a good guy. Just don't go for it so hard. Be cool, talk to them, and you'll have a MUCH better time.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Timorous » Fri Dec 24, 2010 12:43 pm UTC

I am 25 and this would be my advice to my early teenage self

To my early teenage self wrote: Try accounting, it is more fun than you might think and getting experience will be easier when you can take jobs that have rubbish pay because you do not have any financial commitments.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Promicin » Fri Dec 24, 2010 2:35 pm UTC

I'm 20. To ten-year-old me...

Your dad's a jerk. Get over him now before he ruins your life in a few years. Also, school is awesome, okay? Especially math. And you know what? Boys aren't icky.


And 15-year-old me...

Yeah, boys aren't icky, are they? Told ya. But don't worry about this one, mkay? He's an idiot. And start writing more, you were really good. Also, really, this is important: love people and animals while they're around. They won't be forever. Oh, and get ready for psychological therapy in a fewyears.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Enuja » Fri Dec 24, 2010 5:20 pm UTC

Me at thirty to me at 24:
No, really, you are polyamorous. Yeah, you've mostly been on the partner-has-multiple-partners end so far, but that's just a reason to get multiple partners, not a reason to think you are monogamous. Go ahead and try monogamy if you really have to prove it to yourself, but be more honest with yourself and your partner: the monogamy thing is not going to work, long term.


Me at thirty to me at 23:
Academia is not for you. Remember how difficult it was to finish your undergraduate thesis? Yeah? It doesn't get any better. Being an academic is too much like being an entrepreneur: you have to come up with ideas and convince other people that they are important (to get grants, to get your work published) and you know you like solving problems better than you like identifying problems and being infected by other people's enthusiasm better than you like originating enthusiasm that you infect others with. Actually use the job placement services at your college, and look for a professional-wage job you can do with your biology degree and don't need further education to get. Look for something you do with your hands (lab work, for example), and remember the lesson you thought you already learned in college: friends and the life you have outside of your job is more important to you than employment is. So start working at something you can leave at work, and build the life that sounds right for you, not the life you think an Academic is supposed to have. And keep reading fiction and non-fiction for fun. No job or career track is worth leaving that behind.


That said, I actually like that I learned these lessons by trying and failing: if I'd just taken someone's words for them, even an older me, I don't know if I'd really believe them. And I don't really feel like I've wasted any time: I did have a lot of fun doing things that didn't work out in the long term.

Also, I find it humorous how many people have hair-related advice for their past selves, and how divergent it is.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby TimelordSimone » Fri Dec 24, 2010 5:53 pm UTC

I approve of this thread. It's oddly enjoyable to read these.

Anyway: I'm 21.
to myself ten years ago wrote:Hey kid. How was your first term at secondary school? Yeah, it's an awful school, but you get great results nonetheless, so don't worry about it. Anyway, SPOILERS: You're a homo. This isn't as big a deal as you think it is. You have amazing friends.


to myself five years ago wrote:First things first, you need to work harder. You're good at exams, but you chose to do music, you actually have to work now. Second things second, you are attractive. I cannot stress enough how important it is that you learn this. Enjoy the next couple of years, and try and keep in touch with the friends you make here better. Oh, and put a lot more thought into which university to attend.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Brace » Fri Dec 24, 2010 10:15 pm UTC

22 now. 6-7 years ago, I would tell myself the following.

To my 15-16 year old self wrote:You aren't going to beat it. You don't need to prove anything anyways. Stop being arrogant. It isn't anything but hubris to think that you alone can do what nobody else can. Betting the outcome of your life on the least likely development isn't heroic, or brave, or a sign of faith or virtue, but an absolutely ludicrous, incomprehensible mistake. You aren't insane; truly insane people can't function, so even if the worst things said of you were true, it has negligable scope in your life. Sometimes the bravest thing a person can do is to stop fighting, because it involves admitting that you were wrong and that you lost something because of it; it involves walking away from the table and cutting your losses, even when a huge part of you wants to keep gambling because you can't accept what you've actually lost through your initial mistake (or through no fault of your own). You can't be insane and immoral at the same time, because one is an attribute and the other is a choice, and nothing can be both at the same time; the people who say such things are confused, hopelessly confused, to the point you shouldn't even try addressing their arguments. They have their answer already and are just looking to rationalize it, and nothing you say or do will make them let go. Also, FFS don't expect anything or anyone to take over your actions for you and live your life for you, one way or the other; feelings are felt, they do not drive you. Also, major in computer science.


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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Jorpho » Sat Dec 25, 2010 12:21 am UTC

I have largely convinced myself that things couldn't have worked out much better than they are right now, and a large part of that involved suffering through a lot of stuff. So my advice would basically amount to:

I'm afraid it really is every bit as bad as it looks. Probably worse, even. Sorry.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Promicin » Sat Dec 25, 2010 2:29 pm UTC

*storms back in, pointing at former self* Oh, and another thing!

To all ages of me...
Appreciate Christmas presents. When you're my age, you don't get Barbies and Playstation games. It's giftcards.

Also, music and Saturday Night Live are not stupid adult things. They're awesome. Go get some culture.

And for the love of Goddard, Age 7! You are not a cat! Stop meowing!

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby charolastra » Sat Dec 25, 2010 5:42 pm UTC

Age 23 minus 6 days to 13 year old me

For the love of G-d, don't stress so fucking much. When people say you're 13 going on 30, it's really not a compliment. Have more fun and don't keep telling yourself that life will start when you get to college. You will get into college- a bunch of great ones- and you will get full scholarships to several of them. And it doesn't matter anyway because Grandpa was secretly willing to pay 100% of anywhere you choose to go.

Take that computer science class in high school. Don't be put off because all it seems like they do is play Starcraft on LAN (you will find out in a few years that you really like Starcraft and the company of that sort of person). It will be more lucrative to your career than taking French or maybe even Spanish. Not that you shouldn't take Spanish, but remember that there are hundreds of thousands of people who speak both Spanish and English better than you do.

Also, don't worry so much about your weight. Yes, you're a big girl. You might always be, but it's not a death sentence. You'll get a lot more than your thin but less confident friends. Don't keep settling for awful boys because there are some wonderful men in your future. Just don't let your self consciousness ruin it.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Midnight » Sat Dec 25, 2010 6:53 pm UTC

18 year old me to 16 year old me wrote:I mean, I guess I could say "son, graduate high school"--but turns out it doesn't matter THAT fuckin' much. Instead, get your damn GED, get a flippin' job in a gap year, and go to university with all your friends. You're not that fantastic at writing, especially cause you're still gonna procrastinate, so get on that music train already. It's the one thing you're way better at than your father--DO IT. Also, don't smoke and don't trip about your lack of sexperience.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby cerbie » Sun Dec 26, 2010 2:20 am UTC

Late 20s
Drop out freshmen year, just staying long enough to make the friends you'll keep. HS is not doing you any good, and is wasting useful time. It's neither preparing you for college, preparing you for work, nor preparing you for leisure learning. Also, learn to pack your lunches, because you'll soon learn that what you've been eating there has been a large part of why you're feeling so shitty.

Oh, and don't waste that money on higher-performing ATI cards, because the drivers suck; and keep your VIA mobo, when you get it, because the performance hit from not upgrading to flaky NF2 boards will save you ~$200 over the life of socket A. Yes, VIA generally sucks, but this will be an exceptional mobo, and you will discover, too late, that nVidia's Windows chipset drivers suck monkey balls.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby You, sir, name? » Sun Dec 26, 2010 2:27 am UTC

I wrote:Greetings myself from the past. I'm myself in the present, which is your future.

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Promicin wrote:And for the love of Goddard, Age 7! You are not a cat! Stop meowing!


Weird, I think I did this too. But I was an annoying git back then, and I don't expect I'll be able to change that.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Kithplana » Mon Dec 27, 2010 1:02 am UTC

Don't break the Temporal Prime Directive.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby poxic » Mon Dec 27, 2010 1:22 am UTC

poxic to younger poxic did ungrammatically wrote:There isn't a single fucking thing I can tell you that will convince you to change what you're going to do. I could fall from the sky wearing shiny diamond wings and sing in the most beautiful voice ever, telling you exactly what I now wished that I then had done to smooth my way through life now.

And nothing would have changed, except the guilt. Oh gods above, the guilt. I would have felt nothing but the purest, most exquisitely distilled guilt about not living up to the dreams of my future self, because frankly I just wasn't up to it. Future me has learned so much, grown so much, and to expect past me to know and respect all of these things that meant nothing to past self, until past self became future self ... well, that amounts to past-self-abuse, probably.

So, okay, I'm now-standing in front of past-me, wearing shiny wings and with all this goddamn singing going on, so I should probably say something useful. Um ...

You are okay. You don't know it yet, and you won't know it for a while, but you're okay. But yeah, you won't listen. Okay, fine, here's the scoop: you are afraid of your own emotions. Stop that. Your emotions are your only hope of owning your own self. Learn them, get to know them, understand them and their reasoning. Get help with that if you need to. You think it's shameful, or expensive, or inconvenient, but damn girl, it will be the most important investment you will make in your life. Get on it. It's your single best shot at owning yourself, finally.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Sandry » Mon Dec 27, 2010 1:28 am UTC

You, sir, name? wrote:
Promicin wrote:And for the love of Goddard, Age 7! You are not a cat! Stop meowing!


Weird, I think I did this too. But I was an annoying git back then, and I don't expect I'll be able to change that.

Actually, I did this, too. When I really, really tired, I may still do this.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby konaya » Mon Dec 27, 2010 2:04 am UTC

I'm 21.
To my 16-year-old self I wrote:Everything will be just fine. Promise :) we'll have some let-downs in life, but mostly everything will be all right. Our grades will soar, but don't relax because of that; trust me, you'll miss the social studies if you don't do them now. Yes, yes, I know we're mostly interested in technology at this period in time, but that will change. Also, if we don't keep that brain running, we'll have hell later, trust me. We'll score enough on the SAT to squeeze into med school if we'd want to. But don't; join KTH, CMIELINJA, and start studying like crazy. It'll be mind-numbingly easy the first year, but after that everything will change! For the first time since kindergarten, educational authority will throw us something other than easily-digested porridge. Also, try to loosen up a bit and hang out in the student pub; don't start drinking, we've seen enough not to, eh? But be sociable. Hang on to the people we joined with; they're awesome. We'll still be friends with them if we don't, but I imagine we'll be closer if we socialize a bit more.

Also, those fears we had about switching to Linux fully? Screw that. Do the switch. I could use a couple more years of experience right about now.

Also, spend the New Year of 2009-2010 with our girlfriend. Even if it didn't change anything, we'll always regret it and look back and wonder...


To my 8-to-11-year-old self I wrote:We're doing quite all right so far. Do you remember when we realised that grown-ups are stupid and swore that oath to read and learn as much as we can about the world before adolescence? It was brilliant; we'll fly through our education like a electrified tantalum thread through butter. Thank you. I have a list of books I'd like you to read. It's mathematics, really boring stuff I know, but trust me, we want to know this later on. Also, try to pick up sports a bit. Not much, though, just to keep the blood flowing. We'll be quite large when we grow up, but that will serve as a pivot point later on in life so don't change that. Let's be chubby, but try to build stamina and muscle beneath all that fat. We also need to work on our attitude; yes, we do happen to know a lot, but if we don't watch it, we'll start to look down on people. And it is very hard to correct that, you will discover, if we don't start now.

Also, I know that we're refusing to do homework because it's degrading considering all the things we've learned on our own, but... Trust me. Solve their little puzzles and then carry on. Also, when we're around 11, there'll be a game of brännboll on the carbon field behind school, with parents, teachers, pupils. The weeks before that event, stay the hell away from the school library, go straight home after school every day, and don't bring our laptop, no matter how awesome it is to have a laptop. Otherwise we'll get involved in something really serious, and we won't understand anything at the time, but once we're old enough to understand, we'll spend a lot of time trying to figure out what transpired that day. If you don't heed my warning, be prepared to be permanently exempted from getting drafted, so don't get carried away once we find out that they have radio engineering classes in the military.

You'll get your first kisses soon, by the way. At least two girls (I'll point them out to you) will be interested in you, and will make advances I remember that you were totally oblivious to. Knowledge of bonding will be needed in the future, too, so let's see what you'll experience and I'll remember.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Mother Superior » Mon Dec 27, 2010 1:52 pm UTC

Advice I should have given myself five years ago:

Don't sweat it, you'll make friends. You're actually not as bad at it as you think. You'll do just fine, trust me.
You're not your brother. You will not disappoint your parents.
Stop listening to your brother. He's a bitter 30-year old bastard trying to act like he's still 20.
You can make your own life.
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However, the OP asked what advice I would have given myself, and in that case it'd probably be more like:

You won't get laid in the next five years either, but that's okay, so long as you make sure you never, ever- Oh no, the time crystals! They're running out pow-
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Malodine » Mon Dec 27, 2010 2:07 pm UTC

I am 27 Years old now and my advise to myself 10 years ago would be:

Do not join the Army Reserves and attempt to go to college, go straight to Active duty. All you will do while you are supposed to be going to college is getting drunk.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby pkuky » Mon Dec 27, 2010 9:17 pm UTC

Advice of 19 year old me to 14 year old me:
First of all, your best friend isn't the old friend you some times have fun with and mostly compete with, it's the new guy you met last year who you feel threatened by because he's wittier and more athletic then you. don't worry, he's just as threatened by you. I know you're going to convince yourself he's a jerk because he gets mad at you for not going by his code sometimes, but he's not, he's much more fragile then you think and you're going to hurt him. Also, you hate all forms of lust because they distract you from the things you really love, but if you keep holding on to that belief you'll break and start making dirty jokes and be afraid to love the things you used to. Later this year you'll lose a some friends and it's going to hurt a lot, nothing you can do about it, but if you follow my previous advice you should be able to hold on to a few good friends. Afterward you'll decide to like a girl and have a choice between two girls. Choose the one you genuinely care about, not the one you have a crush on, and for God's sake do something about it. At present she likes you too, but that won't last forever. Also, start learning to drive as soon as you can, you'll enjoy it.

I was just thinking about opening a thread like this myself lately. I still don't have enough experience to know what I should have done, but at least I know those were mistakes.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby fyrenwater » Tue Dec 28, 2010 1:22 pm UTC

23-year-old FyreNWater to 13-year-old FyreNWater wrote:Ditch your current "friends". Those "losers"? Go hang with them. You end up doing just that in high school, anyway. They're genuine people and one will end up changing your life.

Dedicate time to improving yourself. Draw more. Take art classes. You're not that great. Better than average, yes. But if you want a job in art, that's not good enough.

Go outside and get some fresh air. Stop watching so much TV. You'll realize how crappy and predictable it is. The internet will take over for entertainment. It's exponentially better.


23-year-old FyreNWater to 18-year-old FyreNWater wrote:High school completed. Congrats. Now get a damn job. It is NOT below you to do manual labor. The cash is worth it, the experience is worth more. Remember learning about The Great Depression? History repeats. Have something to catch you when the market collapses.

That college you've got your eye on? No. The scholarship runs out a semester in, the costs rise exponentially. There's no logic to the way things are run. Many professors either can't do what they're teaching or can't teach what they can do. The student body has people that seem to be hand-picked from the craziest and most-harmful-to-society members of reality shows.

You're worried about missing out on meeting those few sane people who become future friends? Fine. Go. There's only a handful worth meeting, anyway. And transfer out before you finish Freshman year. That place will suck the money and soul out of you. Not a hyperbole. Grads from that school have high rates of unemployment, higher rates of debt, and the entire fucking nation's highest rates of unhappy grads. Choose a local college. Stay close to family. You'll realize just how important they are.

And for the love of all things holy, find a fix for that insomnia!


What the crap, it's 5:30am. I spent 3 hours reevaluating my life to give too-late advice to myself. :C
...It made more sense in my head.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Promicin » Tue Dec 28, 2010 2:57 pm UTC

To me, aged 9/10.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Jorpho » Tue Dec 28, 2010 4:35 pm UTC

Oops...

Advice to myself four days ago wrote:Aren't you forgetting something brazenly obvious?
Advice to myself ten years ago wrote:Things look pretty bad right now, don't they? Why not try some group exercise classes to take your mind off things? You aren't nearly so incompetent when it comes to physical activity as you think you are.

More importantly, it will keep you away from the Internet message boards that will to some extent consume your life. Stay away from those! They are too habit-forming!

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby bbctol » Tue Dec 28, 2010 8:03 pm UTC

Advice from 17-year-old self to exactly one year ago:

Hey, whoa, you got a girlfriend! Pretty crazy! Now, just be very, very careful not to try to make her conform to your preconceived notions of what a person in a relationship should be like. Because she will! And it will be much more boring and less fulfilling than if you'd just tried to see where things naturally went. And then also she'll leave.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby OBrien » Tue Dec 28, 2010 8:43 pm UTC

bbctol wrote:Advice from 17-year-old self to exactly one year ago:

Hey, whoa, you got a girlfriend! Pretty crazy! Now, just be very, very careful not to try to make her conform to your preconceived notions of what a person in a relationship should be like. Because she will! And it will be much more boring and less fulfilling than if you'd just tried to see where things naturally went. And then also she'll leave.

Yeaaaah, apply some roll-reversal and you've got advice I'd give to me about a year and a half ago.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby TimelordSimone » Tue Dec 28, 2010 9:26 pm UTC

I daren't get started on advice to myself just one year ago. What a tool.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Xeio » Wed Dec 29, 2010 4:25 am UTC

Dear self some number of years ago: Fuck if I know.

What, you expected me to be able to solve your problems? I dunno, maybe be a little less anxious (yea, as if). It turns out ok though, so, whatever. Here's the lotto numbers for last week, because it'd be nice to pay off my your student loans.

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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby Armadillo Al » Wed Dec 29, 2010 3:52 pm UTC

Me, at 25, to me, circa 2002:

Don't install Magic Online.
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Re: Advice to Past Self

Postby existential_elevator » Thu Jan 06, 2011 11:34 am UTC

to e_e - 5 years ago wrote:He's not worth it. He's emotionally manipulating you and taking advantage of your young, earnest love. Someone else is worth it though, and you're obviously fucking blind, woman. No, not that guy. Oh, c'mon, don't be such a jackass. Also, what the fuck are you doing in philosophy? Swap to Classics THIS INSTANT. You'll thank me later. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself. Oh, and apply to Oxford, not Cambridge. You'll still probably hate it, but hey.

to e_e - 10 years ago wrote:Honestly, the next 5 years are going to be hell. You're a tough kid and you can ride it out. You always wanted you from the future to come back and let you know you got through it okay. Well, you did. You're going to make mistakes, sure. And there are going to be scars, sure. But hey, you have a nice house, better friends, and a good job. But seriously, do more science, okay. And IT. You'll thank me later when I don't have to talk you into doing classics because you're on an astrophysics course at Keele.


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