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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby Wednesday » Sat Feb 22, 2014 6:36 pm UTC

Sungura wrote:So. I have really thick hair that was kinda wavy up north. But down south higher humidity...my hair looks oh so cute sometimes when it gets these big wavy curls! but alas. I brush it out to get tangles gone, and it frizzes and uncurls =( if i don't touch it it feels tangled which is an odd sensation. Ideas to keep the awesome and still be able to brush?

Speaking as someone with pin straight hair that wouldn't hold a curl even after a perm, some curl haired friends of mine swear by the finger-combing method. Make sure your hair is damp, and just comb through it with your fingers. Brushes separate out everything and keep those wonderful curls from sticking together (creating that frizzy mess) but fingers allow big chunks of hair to stay together while you can still get most of the tangles out. Mousses and things exist but that's outside my expertise. I'd honestly just try googling "how to keep curly hair from getting frizzy" or something similar.
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Postby UniqueScreenname » Sat Feb 22, 2014 6:58 pm UTC

Brushing is the devil.
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Postby addams » Sat Feb 22, 2014 7:33 pm UTC

Wednesday wrote:
Sungura wrote:So. I have really thick hair that was kinda wavy up north. But down south higher humidity...my hair looks oh so cute sometimes when it gets these big wavy curls! but alas. I brush it out to get tangles gone, and it frizzes and uncurls =( if i don't touch it it feels tangled which is an odd sensation. Ideas to keep the awesome and still be able to brush?

Speaking as someone with pin straight hair that wouldn't hold a curl even after a perm, some curl haired friends of mine swear by the finger-combing method. Make sure your hair is damp, and just comb through it with your fingers. Brushes separate out everything and keep those wonderful curls from sticking together (creating that frizzy mess) but fingers allow big chunks of hair to stay together while you can still get most of the tangles out. Mousses and things exist but that's outside my expertise. I'd honestly just try googling "how to keep curly hair from getting frizzy" or something similar.

Pin Straight?
That is what it is called?

ok. Good to know.
I seem to be like that, too.

I did not have a word for it.
I think it looks like something crawled up on my head and died.

Pin Straight is better.
My mother had hair of curls.

People with curl don't really need personality.
They Have Hair!

Her hair was amazing.
For a special treat she would let me comb it.

I was not very good at it.
Her hair would move.

I swear! It's true!
It took an expert to comb her hair.

I lost the comb in her hair and was pulling with all I could agaist her hair.
She called for reinforcements.

There was talk of cutting it out.
She wore short hair for a while there.

Her hair was so curly.
It looked short when it was long.

Well…Sort of.
Curly hair has a life of its own.

Pin Straight hair, on the other hand.
Has no Life at all.

I looked at mine a few days ago.
I decided I was tired of having a dead thing on my head.

I started by making it Mad.
I don't care.

I am thinking of Shaving it off.
"Don't mess with me, Hair."

"I don't give a shit about you."
"You don't have feelings, anyway."


Spoiler:
Did I ever tell you about Liza's first hair cut?
She was four years old.

Her big sister told her, "Hair has feelings."
"When they cut your hair it hurts worse than when your finger was closed in the door."

Poor Liza.
Poor Liza's Mom.

Sherry was still laughing about it when she was an Adult!
She got into Trouble.

Sherry said it was Totally worth it.


What? You can feel your Hair?
I did when I had the European Flu.

Everything hurt.
Even my hair.

There was nothing I could do about any of it, except My Hair.
I asked to have it cut.

What a weird experience.
What is Normal?

Pin Straight Hair or Hair you can feel?
Do other people feel their hair?

Can you feel your hair?
Maybe something IS wrong with me.

I rarely feel my hair.
My mother said she could feel her hair curling.

She would use a chopstick or pen to scratch her scalp.
That usually happened while it was drying.

Do Normal people feel their hair?
If I don't see it in a Mirror,
I don't feel it.

Do you?
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Postby poxic » Sat Feb 22, 2014 7:49 pm UTC

I don't feel my hair, unless I'm feeling everything because I'm sick or way too high.

My hair is not quite pin straight. More like cooked-spaghetti straight -- I have to coax it into lying flat, or else it will be mostly straight with flyaway frizzies. I'm not a big fan of the flyaway frizzies.
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Postby ObsessoMom » Sat Feb 22, 2014 8:59 pm UTC

No advice--just wanted to share a friend's recent blog post about naturally curly hair. Enjoy.

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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby apricity » Sun Feb 23, 2014 2:46 am UTC

Sungura wrote:So. I have really thick hair that was kinda wavy up north. But down south higher humidity...my hair looks oh so cute sometimes when it gets these big wavy curls! but alas. I brush it out to get tangles gone, and it frizzes and uncurls =( if i don't touch it it feels tangled which is an odd sensation. Ideas to keep the awesome and still be able to brush?
I have pin straight hair as well so I have no suggestions, but I have to say when I read this it took me a full minute to figure out you were talking about the literal north and south, not comparing head hair with pubic hair.
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Postby addams » Sun Feb 23, 2014 6:16 am UTC

ObsessoMom wrote:No advice--just wanted to share a friend's recent blog post about naturally curly hair. Enjoy.

That was fun.
No practical advice about doing something with Wild Hair.
I have seen some wonderful things done with it.

The general consensus is, "Don't Brush it, when it is dry!"
Brushing it makes it Angry.

It might be nice to have a wonderful full head of lively interesting hair.
It might suck to have a head of pissed off hair.

One woman wrapped her hair around its self.
It is darned hard to explain with words.

It was pretty. I wanted to try it.
That stuff does not work on dead hair.
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Postby MadParrot » Sun Feb 23, 2014 12:12 pm UTC

ObsessoMom wrote:No advice--just wanted to share a friend's recent blog post about naturally curly hair. Enjoy.


Don't know much about curly hair care myself but - but have to love that a blog post about cultural stuff about curly hair on women also gives rise to an extended discussion about potential origins and locations in homer's illiad poem.

(Oh, looks like its a poetry blog - fair enough, but my comment still stands. Internet, I love you :) )

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Postby quetzal1234 » Mon Feb 24, 2014 2:06 am UTC

So I have hair that also waves out if left to itself. What I do, and this I know is supposed to be really bad for your hair but doesn't seem to hurt mine, is to brush it when it's wet and then pull it back to dry. That more or less keeps it together and stops it from going all over the place.
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Postby Sungura » Mon Feb 24, 2014 2:16 am UTC

Thanks for the ideas/comments. I tried brushing when wet, and the report on that is - nope. It causes straightish frumpy mess. Letting it air dry seems to be the only way. Tonight I tried brushing it BEFORE showering to see if when it dries then, it doesn't feel "tangled". (it's a sensation I don't like, but to be fair, it might just be it's newfound curlyness that came out of nowhere that is throwing off my sensors - I am very tactile sensitive and little changes can overstimulate. And it's not like, tear my hair out, just "oh shit a new sensation to get used to", if that makes sense). Gonna try this...I shall report back. being a night shower-er is not helpful in a way because sleeping on it makes it frumpy either way, haha.
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Postby addams » Mon Feb 24, 2014 5:25 am UTC

Sungura wrote:Thanks for the ideas/comments. I tried brushing when wet, and the report on that is - nope. It causes straightish frumpy mess. Letting it air dry seems to be the only way. Tonight I tried brushing it BEFORE showering to see if when it dries then, it doesn't feel "tangled". (it's a sensation I don't like, but to be fair, it might just be it's newfound curlyness that came out of nowhere that is throwing off my sensors - I am very tactile sensitive and little changes can overstimulate. And it's not like, tear my hair out, just "oh shit a new sensation to get used to", if that makes sense). Gonna try this...I shall report back. being a night shower-er is not helpful in a way because sleeping on it makes it frumpy either way, haha.

oh, yeah. That night shower might be a problem.
You Golden Children of the Curly Hair can't mess around with it, too much.

Sleeping on it is too much.
Are you kidding??

Me. Person with pen straight hair, slept with it wet up in a towel.
Good! God! Don't do that.

Some people's hair does That without the benefit of a towel.
For those people, we have Razors.

The feel of your hair curling can become the feeling of being beautiful.
Don't be creeped out.

My Mom said the feel of a bug on her arm felt a little like her hair curling.
I asked. I wanted to know. It is something I will never feel.

Like a man asking what giving birth feels like.
Curly hair doesn't hurt, much. And; You can do it with you clothes on.
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Postby ShortChelsea » Mon Feb 24, 2014 3:34 pm UTC

Does anyone have recommendations for lotion? My hands are starting to split open. I don't buy lotion and I don't want to waste money on a lot of products before finding something that helps. :(

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Postby Wednesday » Mon Feb 24, 2014 3:51 pm UTC

Lush's Dream Cream is relatively inexpensive, smells good (not floral - reminds me of tack cleaner or something more honey-like) and comes in enormous pots that never run out. It has done wonders for my skin.
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Postby addams » Mon Feb 24, 2014 4:16 pm UTC

ShortChelsea wrote:Does anyone have recommendations for lotion? My hands are starting to split open. I don't buy lotion and I don't want to waste money on a lot of products before finding something that helps. :(

Where are you?
Lotions have different names in different Markets.

Kind of a Stupid Side Note.
Spoiler:
You know that White Stuff babies are covered with when first born into The World?
Well; There is this White Stuff. It is reported to be an amazing hand lotion.

Please; Don't start scraping and selling vernix.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vernix_caseosa


Look at the Label.
What do you want it to do?

Lanolin. It is found naturally in Sheep's Wool.
Strange, right?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lanolin

Glycerin is a nice touch.
Scary? Nitro-Glycerin?

Blow up your hands?
No. Not all Glycerin is Nitro.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glycerol

There are other wonderful synthetic lotions.
Some carry vitamin A and related structures.

"Better living through Chemistry."
Does not always mean LSD.

Why?
Why are your hands cracking?
Why are your hands that dry?

What do you do with them?
Is it a skin Thing?

If a person's skin is losing integrity;
That is a medical problem.

Are you in one of those Free For All, not anarchy, States?
If so; Go ye to a Physician.

The M.D. will take one glance at your hands and make recommendations for You and You alone.
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Postby Sungura » Mon Feb 24, 2014 4:32 pm UTC

Wednesday wrote:Lush's Dream Cream is relatively inexpensive, smells good (not floral - reminds me of tack cleaner or something more honey-like) and comes in enormous pots that never run out. It has done wonders for my skin.

I second this. I find it absorbs in quickly and doesn't leave a greasy feel either. However I found I still needed a lot of applications in dry climates.

Another great product (that is super dupper cheap) is Mane 'n Tail Hoofmaker Hand & Nail Therapy. Yes you can find it at any tractor supply or farm store, and I think wallgreens has it too, but it's not just for hooves (although it will help make your nails stronger, if that matters to you!). It takes a bit of vigorous rubbing to get it soaked in, but once in, again it is not greasy and I think it lasts a lot longer than Dream Cream (M&T was a go-to when I lived up in the dry north). It's like $3 for 6 oz and they sell larger containers as well. There really isn't much scent to it (if anything, there is a bit of an odd scent...kinda reminds me of saddle soap, but it is not a strong scent) so either you could cover it up with a scent you like or give it 10 min and there will be no scent left. I've heard some complain about it though. For $3 though I think it would be work a try.

I tend to use M&T on my legs after shaving (it makes them oh so smooth and seems to stop any razor burn for me) and generally over my body, and use the Dream Cream on my hands/arms where i will smell it more as I much prefer the scent of Dream Cream. I get moderately dry skin in the winter down south where it's more humid.

If you have really really bad hands, like excema / horrible cracking / splitting, the Mane n' Tail might not be enough, try Corn Huskers Lotion. It's about $4-$5 for their standard 7oz. It is watery yet thick, there isn't oil in it and it absorbs fast but I did find it left an odd almost sticky (not sticky, but tacky? I don't know how to describe it. I got used to it after a while / used less so it might have been artifact of using too much, you need less than you think of it). Another winner for if you have horribly cracked hands, or terribly dry. People report (and I agree, based on cat/rabbit scratches I get here and there) that it makes scars heal less obviously. I would recommend this above the others if you have the cracked-so-bad-it's-bleeding (or almost bleeding) skin. In the worst of dry harsh Michigan winters, this is what I used to stop my skin from cracking and falling off :P
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Postby PictureSarah » Tue Feb 25, 2014 2:36 am UTC

Shea Moisture Baby Healing Lotion. It smells SO GOOD. And free of parabens, phthalates, paraffin, glueten, propylene glycol, mineral oil, synthetic fragrance, PABA, synthetic color, DEA, sulfates, and no animal testing. Also organic. I slather my baby and myself in Shea Moisture products. I wish they paid me for how often I rave about them.
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Postby addams » Thu Feb 27, 2014 7:05 pm UTC

Hair. Funny stuff.
I noticed my hair a few days before the Curly Hair discussion occurred on this thread.

I have been bothering my hair.
I think it is funny.

My hair has no feeling.
I did not know other people's hair had feeling.

I, still, don't believe it, sometimes.
If they tell you it has feelings.
error on the side of, "ok."

My hair does not feel much.
It sure can look like it does.

Spoiler:
It looked Dead.
That pissed me off.

Like I don't have enough problems.
It looks like a dead thing on my head. (fuck)

I was attempting to fit in and look natural.
Dead head did not help me 'fit in'.

So; I quit trying.
It began with color.

I was aiming at Red. I hit Green.
There was some fun.

It turned Green and it would not accept any other color.
I tried a bunch. Some strands would pick up the color.

Other strands would have a thin coating of the new color with green shining through.
My hair was Tie-Dye. (shrug) few noticed.

I went into a City.
A woman in The City told me about Sodium Bicarbonate.

Better living through chemistry.
I don't know what that stuff did, but it worked.

I did not expect it to work.
I used some random color, to see it Fail, again.

It did not Fail.
What color is my hair?

On my BackGround Check it says Tie-Dye.
Today, it's Black and Blue.

Form follows color?

I Bent over and blew hot air on it.
Then teased it, while bent over.

When I stood up and looked at it in a mirror,
It looked surprised.

I kept teaseing it, until it looked angry.
Then I sprayed it in the Face with Hair Mace.

That will show it.
I pinched it with pens and stabed it will sticks.

It does not look dead.
It looks angry.

Can you blame it?
Poor Hair.

A woman stopped me in public and said, "I like your hair."
I laughed and said, "Thank you. Not everyone does."

She said, "You should wear it any way that feels right to you."
I looked at her and said, "I can't feel it. I have no idea what is going on up there."

"Do you feel your hair?"
It, sort of, started a conversation.

She walked away touching her hair.
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Postby ShortChelsea » Thu Feb 27, 2014 11:56 pm UTC

I think I'm going to try the Corn Huskers-I get tiny burns on my hands all the time.

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Postby RollingHead » Sat Mar 01, 2014 9:11 pm UTC

Brushing curly hair before washing it works for my boyfriend. It gets frizzy with brushing because the hairs tend to partially straighten out, then hot water flattens it and finally when it dries it bounces back to curly but without all the knots.

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Postby natraj » Sun Mar 02, 2014 1:04 am UTC

my hair is mad curly and i just finger-brush it in the shower. usually with this brand of shampoo and then i put the leave-in conditioner in after i am out of showering. my hair is pretty short at the moment though, when i had knee-length hair i actually did bother to own a hairbrush but i'd only brush my hair in the shower.
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Postby nyanonie » Mon Mar 10, 2014 10:46 pm UTC

I also have natural hair and the only way for me is: shower, brush the complete wet hair (you also could say battle with the hair...), crumple the hair with a towl, get mousse in it (it has taken a long time till I find a good one. The most clued my hair together) and then dry them with a diffusor.
In all other ways they are either frizzy and also kind of straight or curl in an ugly way.

To the feeling thing: When I'm in a bad mood my curls hang down. They only curl nice if I'm happy. So I think my hair are feeling me?!

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Postby addams » Tue Mar 11, 2014 7:08 am UTC

nyanonie wrote:To the feeling thing: When I'm in a bad mood my curls hang down. They only curl nice if I'm happy. So I think my hair are feeling me?!

I believe you.
I have heard similar things from others.

Some people feel their hair.
Other people have hair that feels them.

I am one of those other, others.
I am vaguely aware I have hair.

I try to not offend with the way I look.
Sometimes I am almost too good.

Offensively inoffensive.
Today I morphed and turned into Amy Farrah Fowler.

It is funny.
If I put up a fight, I can bury the Amy Farrah Fowler within.
She seems to be constantly waiting for me to drop my guard.

Then, (poof) there she is, Forever 63.
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Postby Angua » Sat Mar 15, 2014 4:37 pm UTC

Does having my hair just down naturally look professional enough for a medical student trying to make a good impression for an attachment in a GP practice, or should I tie it back (or at least clip back the bits that come around my face?).

Haircut here:Image
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Postby ashtraygirl » Sat Mar 15, 2014 4:45 pm UTC

Angua wrote:Does having my hair just down naturally look professional enough for a medical student trying to make a good impression for an attachment in a GP practice, or should I tie it back (or at least clip back the bits that come around my face?).

Haircut here:Image

I would always tie it back for clinical attachments because when you lean over a patient you don't want your hair getting in the way.

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Postby Angua » Sat Mar 15, 2014 5:09 pm UTC

It's not falling forward though, even when I'm leaning over. I would have it back if I felt it was going to interfere.

Also, I see plenty of female doctors with their hair down, but don't feel confident to know what looks professional.
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Postby ashtraygirl » Sat Mar 15, 2014 5:15 pm UTC

Angua wrote:It's not falling forward though, even when I'm leaning over. I would have it back if I felt it was going to interfere.

Also, I see plenty of female doctors with their hair down, but don't feel confident to know what looks professional.

It's up to you, and you have to figure out what works, but I tie mine back because I think it's more professional and cleaner. Check your Trust's uniform and Infection Control policies too, some insist on it. I see plenty of us with hair down too, so it's what works for you, but while you're a student, often it's safer to stick with the more conservative option.

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Postby Angua » Sat Mar 15, 2014 5:43 pm UTC

And yet, the questionof how do I look still hasn't been answered.

It's not like I wasn't taking a hairthing with me as a back up.
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Postby addams » Sat Mar 15, 2014 6:17 pm UTC

Angua wrote:It's not falling forward though, even when I'm leaning over. I would have it back if I felt it was going to interfere.

Also, I see plenty of female doctors with their hair down, but don't feel confident to know what looks professional.

You are beautiful.
Your hair can not touch your shoulders, at work.

There was a time when medical's hair could not touch their collar.
And; Some had a stupid fez to balance up there!

You can do Fabulous Things with that hair.
What kind of work will you be doing?

Wound care? Lift your hair.
You can even wear a paper hat.

Then, after work, A cloud of sweet smelling beautiful hair will fall all around you.
Good God Child. You are beautiful.

pfft. Are you as smart as you look?
What does your hair look like, Up?

We know what you look like, now.
What does it look like, Up?

What fun. Do you get a Lab Coat?
Or; Do you have to run around in your undies.

Scrubs look like undies or PJ's to me.
Sometimes, I look at Nurses and think.

"Why didn't you get dressed?"
I have learned not to say it.
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Postby Angua » Sat Mar 15, 2014 6:27 pm UTC

It looks very odd up, because it's just a thick puff at the end of a very short pony tail.

But thank you for the compliments, addams. They don't have paper hats in England, but they still have them in the Caribbean!
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Postby apricity » Sat Mar 15, 2014 8:17 pm UTC

I think you have a very professional-looking hairstyle!
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Postby Enuja » Sat Mar 15, 2014 8:29 pm UTC

For an interview, I think it makes sense to go more formal. And having your hair down is more formal. Having your hair up is more utilitarian, but an interview is about making a positive impression, not about getting things done. Except for being sideways, you look very nice and professional with your hair down. But I'm not in your country or your profession, so I could be wrong about what is formal and what is professional. Looks good to me!

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Postby addams » Sat Mar 15, 2014 10:22 pm UTC

Up is not always in a PonyTail.
There are Hair People.

They know these things.
They might teach you how to pull it Up with Clips.

Not all at once, like a Jersey Girl.
But; Up!

I don't like it down on Medical Staff.
Hair is hair. We are Animals, after all.

If a person drags it through the dust on the floor while picking up a (-Only God knows what a person might drop and watch roll.-)
Or a Child sneezes into your hair. Think it can't happen in a Geriatric Ward? Think again.

ech. It's your hair.
Do you shake it like the Breck Girl?
That's my opinion and I am sticking to it.

If you want to stop working with sick people,
You can become a Break Girl.

What about This.
https://www.google.com/search?q=breck+g ... B450%3B601
Only prettier.

(tee hee) Or, This.
https://www.google.com/search?q=breck+g ... B286%3B400
That can be so stiff, it works as a Helmet.
No clipping your head on an open cupboard doors.
Your hair absorbs the impact.

This is your hair type. right?
https://www.google.com/search?q=hairsty ... B189%3B244
Poor thing.
What can you do with hair like that? pfft.

You would look good without hair.
You are going to work.

Are you going to dazzle them with your hair and personality?
Or; Blend in?

Tough choice. Do you have a choice?
This is why God created Hair People.

I know England has some.
Almost everywhere has some.

Islamic woman and nuns have it made.
They will be wearing a black scarf.

For the rest of us, there are shhh. (Gay Guys) shhh.
Gay Guys are not the only Guys that know about hair.

Gay Guys are highly likely to tell you. shhh.
They, just, want the world to be more beautiful.
It's not personal. Don't believe everything they say.

Take a friend.
If you go alone, you might feel, sort a, nuts; By the end.
If you take a friend, there will be two of you.

If you get separated....
Keep Taxi money on you and your Mom on Speed Dial.

How many days do you have to find a HairStyle that will work for you at work
and leave you Magnificent at the end of the day?

Such a wonderful problem.
It is fine, now.

The way it is now is your 'Fall Back' position.
Try some Other Stuff. Why not?

It's your hair. It can look wonderful.
Professional and clean and on purpose and easy and

Hey! Like a Good Witch! with no crown.
Tell the children you only wear the crown on Sundays.
https://www.google.com/search?q=hairsty ... B500%3B550

That kind of look.
But; with the back both under control and interesting.
Use unscented hair spray or gel or something.

I have been wearing my hair Up. It is funny.
Practice a HairStyle. Go hiking in it then sleep on it.
If it does that, it can go to work.

Of course, you will stand out in a crowd.
That means you have to be Good.

Everything you do will be watched.
Your hair gets their attention.
Then they start watching what you are doing.

Blend? No way to completely blend in, in Medicine.
Just try to keep your hair out of the Blood and Piss.

Maybe medicine is different, today.
Lucky You! Do something with that hair and touch some people!

Yeah!! You get to start practicing! Yeah!!
Three Cheers! You had to study so much stuff, for so long to get here.

And; Here you are, Ready to Touch People!
Shave it! I don't care what your hair is like.

What fun you are going to be having.


When your hair is down like that,
Do you touch it? Do you push it behind your ear while you make chart notes?

(shrug) You will be in a clinic? Medical Clinic?
Don't touch your hair without thinking about it.

A weird hair style will do that for you.
If you touch it, It gets your attention.
You are not used to weird hair.

Once you go weird.
Don't touch it, while it is up.

Weird personal story.
Spoiler:
The hair that falls against a person's face can pick up bacteria.
It falls somewhere when it does not fall against our faces.
Then it falls back against our face.

Our skin is wonderfully and powerfully protective.
A small break on our skin is not a big deal.

It is not a big deal until we meet some Too Too friendly microbes.
We, sort of, had the Tiger by The Tail for a while. Not now.

We had antibiotics that could cure AnyThing.
I know now and we knew then antibiotics don't cure everything.

Still... Imagine Pneumonia without antibiotics.

Staph is not a long lived little spud.
It is highly contagious during its short virulent life.

Nosocomial infections were a problem, once upon a time.
I have no idea how much of a problem they are for you, now.

Everything was considered for its potential for transmitting disease.

Even our hair.
A hair style that looks pretty and looks a little wild,
might be more responsible and professional than laissez faire hair.

EDIT:
Your hair facinates me.
It could be So Great!

Spoiler:
If you go asking about hair styles,
Write down on an index card in big letters:
Do Not Cut My Hair.
Show me how to style to in 10 minutes or less.


For Work! You might have to explain what you do.

Then tell them, "I want to look like a Goddess, effortlessly."
What kind of a Goddess? Artimus crashes into Aphrodite.

Artimus is no nonsense. Grounded and Practical.
Aphrodite is Kind and Loving. Soft and Accessible.
Both are feminine. Both are trustworthy.

If they don't cut your hair,
Where is the problem?

oh. Ask about getting dressed.
If you get big hair, it may not fit through the scrub top.
Or; getting dressed might mess it up.

hair...There is always the conversion to Islam or becoming a Catholic Nun to consider.
Then the Hair Thing is no longer a problem. That would be more trouble, in the long run.
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Postby Apparently Anonymous » Tue Mar 18, 2014 10:35 am UTC

Has anyone experienced stronger cramps after starting birth control pills? I could usually get by without painkillers before, but since starting the pill I can't. Pretty sure my flow is heavier too - then again I'm only in my second month of taking it, maybe the body just needs to adapt?

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Postby Sungura » Wed Mar 19, 2014 8:33 pm UTC

Yup. For me, most BC pills (and there are many) the side effects are way worse (cramping, nausia, migraines, more blood, less predictable periods, longer periods...) I've tried just about everything available to me in the states. the Mirena IUD is the only thing that somewhat helps, enough to make it worth it. not sure what pill you are on exactly but it very well could be a side effect.
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Postby AngrySquirrel » Mon Apr 07, 2014 10:46 am UTC

So, how exactly do people with getting Shark Week while camping? I'm talking no toilet-facilities more advanced than a bush here.
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Postby studyinserendipity » Mon Apr 07, 2014 12:47 pm UTC

AngrySquirrel wrote:So, how exactly do people with getting Shark Week while camping? I'm talking no toilet-facilities more advanced than a bush here.
I had that happen last summer while I was backpacking around an island for 5 days. I used a menstrual cup for the most part, and brought disposable pads that I just packed tightly in a very heavy resealable plastic bag after they were used. I typically use reusable pads, but the thought of carrying those around (and wasting lots of filtered water washing them out) was not appealing. The cup worked extremely well and the extra toilet paper/pads that I needed to bring didn't take up too much space in the pack.

Granted, I knew it was going to happen so I was able to plan in advance. I don't know what I would have done if it had happened on the island and I hadn't brought anything. Although I've made tampons out of rolled-up toilet paper before and they weren't terrible.
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Postby Virtual_Aardvark » Thu Apr 10, 2014 6:39 pm UTC

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Postby Sungura » Thu Apr 10, 2014 9:41 pm UTC

AngrySquirrel wrote:So, how exactly do people with getting Shark Week while camping? I'm talking no toilet-facilities more advanced than a bush here.

I had shark week the whole time at El Capitan. Top of a friggin' granite cliff. No bush even (altitude) but dig a hole in the dirt/sand deal. Double ziplock bags (freezer ones that like, stop the smell...) and all toilet paper and tampons (I have troubles with cups lately) went into the ziplock double bagged and then in a bear canister. Oh yeah, did I forget to mention the bears? Annoying and cumbersome but I have no better ideas.

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Postby sophyturtle » Fri May 23, 2014 1:12 pm UTC

It turns out I don't understand how bras work.
Like, I wore this bra yesterday, but today I tightened the straps. Now my boobs are all bouncy and this confuses me.
I want to get to a place where I am neither conforming nor rebelling but simply being.

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Postby Sungura » Fri May 23, 2014 6:03 pm UTC

Elastic stretches out on bras, some more quickly than others. It is recommended to not wear the same bra more than one day in a row, this allows the elastic to reset itself between wears, and prolongs the life of a bra. Additionally, washing in cold water and air drying it keeps the elastic in better condition for longer. Underwired bras should be hand washed. The cold water puts the spring back in the elastic. It's best to have 3 or so bras to rotate through (or more if you want). Wearing one bra for a while every day will "kill" it very quickly but rotating it with others a good bra should be expected to last about 6 months, maybe 8-12 depending on how much it's worn and how well it is cared for. Buy on the last hook so you can tighten it over the course of the months as the elastic stretches to get full wearability.
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