Yes, in my mind that's incredibly harsh, but then I grew up with liberal verging-on-hippy parents. Are her parents always that harsh/controlling? Is it possible to speak to them about how much going to prom would mean to her or will that simply make matters worse? I'm guessing it wouldn't resolve anything. Good plan with the movies thing. Do her parents always treat her like that? You make it sound as though they're always so harsh/controlling, rather than just being stresst or getting into arguments with her once in a while. I had some pretty full-on arfuments with my parents during the teenage years, but they were pretty good overall.
They are very controlling most of the time. She's nearly constantly grounded, for things like being on the phone after 9 PM or not doing enough dishes, or not getting enough sleep (because she has to stay up late doing homework and washing dishes! Gah!) They recently installed software on the family computer that tracks all the sites she visits, blocks any they don't like (such as forums, DeviantArt, Facebook, ect; she doesn't go on many but anyplace where she might "talk to people instead of doing chores/studying" is off-limits), and it logs any conversations she has on instant messengers.
So you. Pretty controlling. And it's not like she's a bad student--she gets in trouble for not having straight A's, she has a very limited social life, she has a job as well as being in ballet classes. I mean, it's not like my family is perfect and I get along with them all of the time or even most of it, but it makes me angry to see them so dissatisfied with such a good kid.
Magic Smoothie wrote:Maybe I'm an impulsive idiot, but if you can't get her mom to change her mind I'd say to invite her over for the "movie night" and see if you could sneak her off, if she was that excited about it. Reminds me of when my mom threw away the birthday cake my friend made me for spilling silverware.
We did discuss this, but I'm not sure we'd be able to pull it off, if my mother would be okay with it if she knew (though she does agree with me that it is entirely unfair and my friend's mother has control issues), if her mom would call her during the night/ect (very likely). She would also probably have to be back at her house earlier than she would return from prom.
It's too late to get her ticket back now, but... ahhhhg. >.<
And D: Threw away your birthday cake?
@Jadestone - Wow, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend
The only advice I could give you has pretty much already been given - she needs to sit down and have a calm, logical talk with her parents, explain why the formal/prom means so much to her, and why she feels the punishment is an over-reaction (except phrasing it better than that).)
Firstly hello, I like your name.
I am certain she tried this. Her parents told her that she was no lnger grounded from being on the phone (as long as it was before 9 and she was doing something productive at the same time) and possibly ungrounded form going places because "they knew that going to prom was really what mattered to her."
It just makes me angry. She basically cried all the night and then got yelled at for keeping her sister awake because of it (I don't think her sister even complained of this--she tried to convince her mom to let my friend go too).
Anyway, yeah, I'm just mad that they would do this to her still. As if junior year isn't hellish enough to live through.
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It would make sense those exist now that I think about it! I shall look into some, thank you.
And many hugs to poxic and Meaux and H.E.L.e.N. if they wish them, issues like that suck. Utterly.
Edit: Long post is longer than I thought O.o
Also, I seem to not have gotten Shark Week for the second month in a row. There is zero chance I am pregnant, so I am okay with this. Uterus, take a break whenever
you want, it is fine by me, really.