Sunny wrote: Ayriannah wrote: belliott4488 wrote:
That brings up an important point (important only in the context of conversations that take place while waiting around for events that occur twice per hour) - why is it okay to call a bunch of girls or women "you guys" but it is wrong to refer to one girl or woman as a "guy"? I don't get that.
I also don't get why it's okay to address a girl as "dude", so I'm clearly confused.
It's all in how it's said; calling a group 'you guys has the same connotation be it mostly (or entirely) female as it does when used for an evenly mixed or male-heavy group; it's an informal way of saying 'this group of people'. 'Dude', drawing its pop-culture roots from surfers, feels very laid-back, and is nearly always meant to be non-offensive. 'Guy' and boy/man, however, are used entirely interchangeably, and have a much more definitive 'I am calling you male' connotation. Directly calling a girl a 'guy' is like calling a guy a 'girl': works in some, very
specific circumstances, but causes offense in most others.
That said- I am really not offended. I was just a little put out, and didn't want the mistake to continue.
To be honest, I think you're being a bit too sensitive about the whole thing. Your username really isn't that gender-specific - I wouldn't have known you were a girl unless you had said it, and it wasn't like he was calling you a guy in a mean and derogatory way. It really shouldn't matter at all.
I did say I wasn't really offended. In that specific post, I was merely answering belliott4488's question. It really doesn't matter very much, it the long run. I just have issues (which I would rather not discuss) involving childhood bullies, and it bothers me to a minor degree. I was stating my preference, in a way that might generate interesting discussion. I repeat my earlier "does not want flame war. Does not want.
I have honestly never before gotten the impression that my username wasn't
obviously feminine. Perhaps it's just differing audiences, but most people assume I'm a girl. It was an odd and interesting anomaly, and in my attempts to take up some of the 25-minute breaks, I commented.
Speaking of 25 minute breaks... only 3 minutes until a possible second 'sandcastle only' frame. who's excited? (or the opposite?)
P.S. I am not Randall. I am an initiate of Time. All is measured by the passage of the Newpix.