woktiny wrote:sounds like advice for marriage, not just sex... but wouldn't/shouldn't "caring about each other" lead to those qualities?
Sometimes. Sometimes not. Sometimes all the caring in the world doesn't change anything if you don't know what to *do* about it, and sometimes you can do the *things* without having to have any of the emotion behind it at all.
Moo wrote:I cannot rationalize my love for my hubby. I cannot formalize my cringing response to the sound of polystyrene rubbing on things. I cannot explain why I feel like doing nice things for people and being generally polite. These feelings are however both founded and usefull, surely?
By all means. Well, actually, I *can* rationalize why you feel like doing nice things and being polite, but that's beside the point.
The point is, consider it as creepy as you like, but recognize that if you can't come up with a better reason, then you have no real call to say that it's "wrong" or that they shouldn't do it. It just makes you feel icky.
Sometimes, the only thing that a feeling like that means
is that you have a feeling. Nothing beyond that.