0355: "Couple"

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0355: "Couple"

Postby thethirdmoose » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:13 am UTC

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Alt Text: Facebook defines relationships. 'Yeah, we would have broken up last night, but the net connection was down.'

http://xkcd.com/355/

Looks like General Error is here to mess with me :(
EDIT: Looks like General Error sent out the Triple Post Troops...
And, now that I can finally see the comic, I can't actually ever see this happening to me (unlike most of Randall's comics).
I mean, who really wants "It's complicated" anyways?
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby athelas » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:15 am UTC

I never understood the point of "It's complicated," except as humor. If it's un-awkward enough for you to agree to put "it's complicated" on facebook, it should be un-awkward enough for you to uncomplicate it in real life.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby 1337geek » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:19 am UTC

Sad, but true.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby SomethingWitty » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:20 am UTC

athelas wrote:I never understood the point of "It's complicated," except as humor. If it's un-awkward enough for you to agree to put "it's complicated" on facebook, it should be un-awkward enough for you to uncomplicate it in real life.


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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby lone_wolf » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:21 am UTC

I never got what "it's complicated" meant on facebook? Anyone care to explain.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Eleyras » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:21 am UTC

I was someone's it's complicated once, then his girlfriend.

We broke up.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby GodShapedBullet » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:22 am UTC

I've asked someone this.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby TheHalfBakery » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:22 am UTC

I gotta say, I really liked this one.

athelas - I've never used it, but I mostly see It's complicated for people in long distance relationships, or relationships where they are torn to be with each other or not for different reasons (but are usually sleeping together regardless), or more often, in the process of a breakup where they're trying to work thing out (but never do).

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby aerojad » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:23 am UTC

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Vandole » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:23 am UTC

I think it's fairly naïve to assume that the full breadth of relationships can be covered by the relationship statuses on a site like facebook, unless they have extremely robust settings. So unless there's options like "best friends that get drunk and have sex but don't want to be friends with benefits and aren't looking for a relationship" then "It's complicated" is probably the best way to say it.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby EtzHadaat » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:24 am UTC

Athelas- It should mean you're behaving as if you're in a relationship in some aspects but not all aspects and are uncomfortable stating that you're in a relationship because of the missing aspects, I think.

I was friends with a couple, and it was kind of a long distance relationship, and he started having doubts about the relationship and changed it to "It's complicated" without asking her or discussing it with her. She was pretty pissed.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby saxmaniac1987 » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:25 am UTC

Did anyone notice that Facebook changed the way pictures load so that its almost instant?

On topic, I've been through the ritual with a girl of both going onto our facebooks and changing our relationship status together. How adorable.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby btilly » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:35 am UTC

lone_wolf wrote:I never got what "it's complicated" meant on facebook? Anyone care to explain.

It means "other".

For instance suppose you're married, but you're in the middle of a divorce, and you have a girlfriend. What other description fits?

For instance suppose that you're single but are in a serious affair with someone married. What other description fits?

For instance suppose you're single but there are three people you're trying to decide between, and you haven't really decided which one to become serious with. What other description fits?

For instance suppose you're gay but you're strongly against homosexuality so you're fighting it. However you've had a few encounters that you're really guilty about. What other description fits?

(And yes, I've known people in each of these situations.)
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby narg » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:39 am UTC

The power of Facebook in deciding relationships is true. For a long time, my girlfriend and I were on unclear terms of what exactly was going on, but then I changed the status to 'in a relationship with' (after prodding from a mutual friend), and it became official.

After all, if Facebook says it, it must be true!

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby thethirdmoose » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:41 am UTC

btilly wrote:For instance suppose you're married, but you're in the middle of a divorce, and you have a girlfriend. What other description fits?

"In a relationship with..."
btilly wrote:For instance suppose that you're single but are in a serious affair with someone married. What other description fits?

Err... I'm not sure you want to put this on facebook :roll:
btilly wrote:For instance suppose you're single but there are three people you're trying to decide between, and you haven't really decided which one to become serious with. What other description fits?

Neither. In any event, you can only be in a relationship/complicated/married/etc to one person on facebook
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For instance suppose you're gay but you're strongly against homosexuality so you're fighting it. However you've had a few encounters that you're really guilty about. What other description fits?


Again, if you are so against it, why are you putting it on facebook? If you are, be honest!
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby SimonSwift » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:45 am UTC

To be honest, I've been in an "it's complicated" relationship before. It's when you're not technically going out, but you have something going on romantically. My deal was that my girlfriend and I had just broken up, but we still had feelings for each other, and we were still sometimes going on dates and all that stuff. I never used the "it's complicated" thing on Facebook, to be honest, but it totally would make sense. I guess.



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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby bprime » Mon Dec 10, 2007 5:51 am UTC

I'm technically in an "It's complicated" relationship on Facebook.

Except that she says she's "Married" on Facebook.

No, she's not really married. And I'm still single at the end of the day.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby acydlord » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:02 am UTC

Maybe it's for the dorks like me, where the girl always wants to be just friends but can't make up her mind and the dudes like me are left wondering wtf it is.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Patren » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:03 am UTC

I was in an it's complicated relationship once on facebook, this is how it happened.

My roommate and I decided to say that we were in a relationship on facebook because a random roommate was assigned to our apartment, and from his facebook we judged that we wouldn't get along well, and he had the airs of one who'd be offended by a homosexual relation so we thought it'd scare him off. When he was setting it up, and trying to fill out the forms his girlfriend took over and made it complicated.

So now we have a running joke that we would have been a couple if his girlfriend hadn't complicated the situation.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby b.i.o » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:05 am UTC

I lol'd.

I think the easiest way for me to describe what I take "it's complicated" to mean is that the relationship isn't clearly defined.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby suzi » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:12 am UTC

I had a boyfriend who moved us from "In a relationship" to just plain "single," and even though we had already had the big break-up drama, that unfortunately was the "oh shit, it's real" signal.

His status was "is feeling like shit."

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby sterces48 » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:21 am UTC

If all I can see is most of the alt text with "..." at the end, how do I see the rest without searching the forums?

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby bluebambue » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:31 am UTC

This is my favorite of his recent comics.

I think "It's complicated" is a valid state for a relationship to be in (though preferably not for long.)

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby netsplit » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:35 am UTC

sterces48 wrote:If all I can see is most of the alt text with "..." at the end, how do I see the rest without searching the forums?


In firefox right click on the image, and click properties. Then drag the corner out so the box is big enough to read the alt text.

In IE, first you have to sacrifice a goat to ballmer....

Edit to add: this comic was funny, but it'd be more funnier if they were having sex while having this discussion.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby WebcomicReader » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:38 am UTC

I laughed and showed a couple of my buds this one because I just fell into this situation over the weekend. Doing the "It's Complicated" thing though is foolish really, I just don't have a relationship status. If you leave it blank it disappears. Better off that way so prospecting Facebook girls or that girl you're being "complicated" with aren't put off.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby aleflamedyud » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:42 am UTC

For instance suppose that you're single but are in a serious affair with someone married. What other description fits?

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Tobes00 » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:47 am UTC

aleflamedyud wrote:
For instance suppose that you're single but are in a serious affair with someone married. What other description fits?

Adulterer.


*zing*

Incidentally, am I the only person left in the world who doesn't actually have a facebook?

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby MHZmaster » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:47 am UTC

This comic is everything wonderful that is facebook.
I especially love the little heart under stick guy's arm.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Yliatas » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:50 am UTC

Sometimes I think people who use "it's complicated" just want attention on facebook. But that might just be my friends. I asked a few on occasion what they meant by it and they just shrugged and said it looked better than "single" or "in a relationship."

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Surgery » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:50 am UTC

netsplit wrote:
sterces48 wrote:If all I can see is most of the alt text with "..." at the end, how do I see the rest without searching the forums?


In firefox right click on the image, and click properties. Then drag the corner out so the box is big enough to read the alt text.

In IE, first you have to sacrifice a goat to ballmer....

Edit to add: this comic was funny, but it'd be more funnier if they were having sex while having this discussion.


or just download the LongTitles extension for FireFox.

And ... I was under the impression they had just finished coitus in the comic, or at least taken a pause. I don't really identify with this comic, but it does indeed do a good job of satirizing the way facebook has kind of become the definitive source of truth for social life. Scary.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby btilly » Mon Dec 10, 2007 6:57 am UTC

aleflamedyud wrote:
For instance suppose that you're single but are in a serious affair with someone married. What other description fits?

Adulterer.

I meant "of the options that Facebook gives you." Which are, Single, In a Relationship, In an Open Relationship, Engaged, Married, and It's Complicated. The situation that I described doesn't fit any of those categories except the last.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Prof. of Slackademia » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:02 am UTC

acydlord wrote:Maybe it's for the dorks like me, where the girl always wants to be just friends but can't make up her mind and the dudes like me are left wondering wtf it is.


Hey, that sounds like me...

I really hope it's not for that, because in that case I have underused it.


Kidding, of course - I still won't use it no matter what. I think the only good reason is, as stated, for transition purposes. And even then it's strange. I guess there is merit to it, but it should be rarely used (and it isn't).


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This reminded me incredibly of "Scrubs", between the zing and incidentally. I dunno if you meant it or not, but it made me laugh.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby netsplit » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:05 am UTC

Surgery wrote:And ... I was under the impression they had just finished coitus in the comic, or at least taken a pause.



It's funnier if it's during. Alot of things are. Take this scenario:

guy:honey have you seen the tv remote?
chick: it's whatever you did with it dear
guy:nvm I found it.


Now compare it to this one:

*chick wearing nothing but chaps straddles man in nothing but cowboy hat*
guy:honey have you seen the tv remote?
chick: it's whatever you did with it dear
guy:nvm I found it.
*guy pulls remote out of chick's vagina*


See what I mean?


Also the extension sounds handy! Ima look for it.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby nknezek » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:06 am UTC

Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic, but does anyone else see the heart in that's formed between the blankets and the guy's arm in the last panel?

It almost makes me feel bad for the guy, as if he's offering his love to her and she's refusing it.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Trella » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:06 am UTC

You can do "it's complicated" without specifying a person with whom it is complicated. So you could just be "it's complicated" because you have feelings for someone and don't want others to think you're available but you're not with that person. Or perhaps you're in the beginning of a relationship and dont' know if you're serious yet and don't want to ask the other person so you put that but don't assign a person.

Most "it's complicated" postings that I've seen didn't have the other person named, which seems to make a lot of sense to me.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Izawwlgood » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:08 am UTC

Ugh, if you don't know me well enough to know who I'm dating, why do I want you informed if you've facebook stalked me?
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby dataxpress » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:10 am UTC

Silver2Falcon wrote:I lol'd.

I think the easiest way for me to describe what I take "it's complicated" to mean is that the relationship isn't clearly defined.


edit: i was mean.
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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Xeio » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:12 am UTC

Tobes00 wrote:Incidentally, am I the only person left in the world who doesn't actually have a facebook?


Nope. I don't have one either, nor a myspace. They both make me sick.

Well, thats not entirely true, I had a facebook for about a day, then noticed it was utterly useless and just a myspace clone for people who don't like myspace, and deleted it.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Surgery » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:12 am UTC

netsplit wrote:Also the extension sounds handy! Ima look for it.


well, i'll admit that that indeed becomes more amusing if said by someone having sex.

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Re: "Couple" discussion

Postby Prof. of Slackademia » Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:14 am UTC

dataxpress wrote:
edit: i was mean.


Haha yeah, but hey, it was funny. Sometimes things have to be sacrificed for comedy. Not that I'm heartless.



And yes, that IS a heart in his legs. DEFINITELY subliminal messaging.

And who knows, maybe Randall just really wants to ask this girl out and can't and wishes he could ask question.


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