HistidineTheCat wrote:Furries are creepy as hell. But that's not why they bother me. It's how darn vocal they are (as mentioned above). Seriously, are there yearly conventions held for any other kind of fetish? (Not counting general "fetish balls")
Have you heard of anime conventions? Or Star Trek conventions? Or Star Wars conventions? Or slash fic conventions? Or the Superbowl? (Really and truly, is there any self-wanking fetish ball bigger or more glorified than the Superbowl?)
More seriously, I don't really think of furry as inherently a fetish at all. I've had dragon prints on my walls for years, and only started wandering into things that are officially labelled as "furry" this last year. Just got back from a weekend at Mephit Fur Meet in Memphis, actually, and it was much tamer than what I'm used to seeing at A-Kon each year. *Many* fewer cosplayers/fursuiters (proportionately and numerically), and more people actually interacting with the costumes there were. I ended up bringing home some dragon prints that will help redefine my current collection, and a gorgeous tiger piece to go with my fairies and my goldfish-ship.
I'm with the people who say furries need to take themselves a bit less seriously, though. I've been talking about MFM for a while at work, and about the furry con we're planning for next year, and occasionally someone wanders up to me and asks, "Isn't that... those freaky people who dress up as animals and have sex? I saw this thing on G4..." I just sort of laugh it off, and casually correct their misimpressions, and usually get a thoughtful "huh" as they wander off. (Then again, I'm the person in the office who sends Snopes links to people who forward urban legends and the like, so I've got some credibility built up to trade against.) One of my coworkers tried to respond seriously and almost debate-style, but didn't understand that taking that tone only lends credence to the people who try to take it overly seriously... so he got some odd looks. It really feels like a nasty cycle to me. People make fun of furries, so furries get defensive and insular, so people make fun of furries because their impressions were just confirmed, so furries get defensive and insular, etc.
I've bounced between fandoms since I was 14, and one thing I've learned is this: every
fandom - Trekkies, otaku, furries - think that it is weirder or crazier than the others; furrydom needs to accept that we're really like most other fandoms, and laugh at the idiots who try to make something worse of us rather than getting upset and adding fuel to their fire.
For the people for whom it starts with sex... well, I've run into that in most fandoms, and have a fine appreciation for tentacle hentai, as well as bishi-boys in general. Hotness is hotness, furry or animated or not.