I think it's fine to brandish it so long as the people who you're claiming have been abused agree that they have been abused. That's always been the clincher for me; I'm comfortable administering labels when the people receiving them are okay with it. If we can imagine someone going through a situation like this and stating that they were abused, then it's probably okay. If we can't imagine it--then we might want to stop and think about it a little more.ShootTheChicken wrote:I'll have to ponder the child abuse part some more as that phrase probably shouldn't be brandished so flippantly.
I know people who have gone through this, and (as far as I'm aware--I've never actually asked) none of them would describe the situation as abusive, merely... very, very unfortunate, and more than a little frustrating. Hence my hesitation to apply the term. But there might be people who experienced it and parsed it as abuse (though I would expect it wouldn't just be the religious education--rather, I would expect the people who parse it as abuse have experienced a lot more than just the education, and they parse it as abuse because it's just one more block in an immense wall that represents an ongoing, lifetime assault on their identity and emotional well-being).